Is a tidy house a happier house?

Last week my children spent more time with the electronic babysitters (TV,Tablet, Xbox) then I would like to know. But do you know what, that’s fine.


Because I needed a little bit of time to get myself straight again.

Now I’m not saying I ignored my children all week. Far from it. Every day we walked the dog, we played games together, even done a little bit of arts and crafts. I hate arts and crafts. But generally last week they spent more time occupying themselves then they usually would.

In the last few weeks/months I have felt myself getting more stressed. Everything has been building up at home. I would complain to myself daily that the house was a mess. I would go up to bed to a messy bedroom, its the one room that we would hide everything that hasn’t got a home, so that we can close the door on it if anyone visits.

After following Katy from What Katy Said decluttering journey, it started to dawn on me, maybe the reason I was so stressed with everything else was stemming from the house. Snapping at the children, and James. I could just feel that I was low. I wasn’t looking after myself, and in turn I was looking after the house even less.

Making a change

So I started to make improvements. Starting off slowly with just clearing the ironing pile, and actually putting all of those ironed clothes away, not just left in a pile.

Then one evening when James was working late I went up to bed and I realised enough is enough I am tidying this room. So at 10pm I got tidying. I put everything that had a home away where it belonged. Gathered a pile in the hallway of things for Mr R to put in the loft. Filled a bin bag with things that I really did not need to be keeping. I even re-arranged some of the furniture.

It didn’t even take an hour and when I woke up the next morning I felt so refreshed and motivated to carry on.

Just ignore the non ironed bedding, no one got time for that kind of ironing!

Throughout the rest of the week I had a really good tidy up and clear out of some clutter. I found things I could sell, and actually made us a bit of money to see us through the summer holidays but selling on eBay.

I made sure the kitchen side was cleared. We had some DIY items just left in the corner of the kitchen from projects that had been finished and never tidied away. No more clutter, everything in its place.

Feeling the difference

The house was never dirty, it had just become untidy. And the untidy was making me stressed, and do you know what, its okay to admit that. I don’t expect my house to be like a show home. I have three children, that just isn’t possible. But I do expect everything to have a place. I like to get to the end of each day, when the children go to bed, and make everything tidy again so we can relax.

I’ll never make a good neat freak, but I have realised that living in a tidy home makes everything feel a little bit easier. I usually wash up and leave the dishes to dry on the drainer. But now I am wanting to put them away straight away, because I just love the feeling of walking into a clean and tidy kitchen.

I have started to read this book, which I’ve seen all over Instagram for months. It all makes sense really, its all about the creature comforts, things that help us to relax and ultimately feel happier. So my next step is to make the house Hygge like especially ready for the cosy autumn evenings.

And as for my poor neglected children, that spent too much time on electronic devices. Well actually they have been getting on like a house on fire just lately. Harry and Matilda have been playing Minecraft together, something they have never done before. As much as I would rather them play a board game together or something else, I am really enjoying listening to them really enjoy each others company. And from that they are also playing more other games together, you should see the huge Lego fort they have built, all three of them together. So maybe, me letting them get on with their own thing a little more has worked wonders for their relationship as siblings too.

Overall, I feel happier, so I am snapping less at everyone else. The children are happy, and the house is tidy, I call that a win!

Now I just have to keep it this way!

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  1. August 15, 2017 / 8:41 pm

    I feel SO much better when the house is clean and tidy! I’ve gotten better at accepting that it can’t look picture perfect all the time, but I am making more of an effort to grab what time I can just to keep on top of things. When it gets too much I literally feel claustrophobic and as if the walls are closing in. #twinklytuesday

    • August 15, 2017 / 9:32 pm

      Ive really noticed how much better I feel, its worth taking the short time to keep on top of it so it doesn’t get out of control isn’t it. Thank you for commenting x

  2. August 15, 2017 / 10:12 pm

    As a busy mum I find it really helps that as a rule no one goes upstairs or downstairs empty handed – everyone needs to take something down to the kitchen or back up to the bedrooms as a way to keep the house tidy and clutter free #HumpDayLinky

    • August 15, 2017 / 10:39 pm

      I love this idea! There is always something that needs taking isn’t there. X thank you for commenting

  3. August 16, 2017 / 5:49 am

    I get stressed out when there is clutter. It gets in my way and limits productivity. #HumpDayLinky

  4. August 16, 2017 / 7:09 am

    All of this!! My house is ALWAYS untidy and it drives me mad, but I’m stuck in that rut of feeling so low about it that it’s hard to find the motivation to change it. I think I’ll have to wait until the kids are back at school, but reading this has given me a little kick – maybe I’ll get the Hygge book too? Thanks for sharing. #HumpDayLinky

  5. August 18, 2017 / 10:12 am

    I agree, a messy house makes me stressed! No matter how clean it is, if there’s clutter I hate it. I sit down in an evening and can’t settle until everything is in it’s place. I imagine it’s much worse with children! #ablogginggoodtime

  6. August 19, 2017 / 9:47 pm

    My front room literally looks like toys r us has exploded in it! I definitely prefer it tidy, I just struggle to keep on top of it. I like the idea of doing it in small parts, so that it doesn’t feel completely overwhelming. Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

  7. August 23, 2017 / 4:35 am

    I think I need to follow your example! Our house is such a mess and needs a proper good sort out! I bet I have stuff I could sell too!! Thanks for linking up #humpdaylinky

  8. September 5, 2017 / 7:04 pm

    I just agree with all you guys! i prefer a house clean, even if is not my home it just feels so good!!!

  9. September 12, 2017 / 2:00 am

    This is such a wonderful post!! You’re so right Caroline, our home will never be perfect but I feel so much calmer when I can walk into my kitchen and the counters are clear, the dishes are put away and my draining board and sink are lovely and shiny 🙂 It only takes a few minutes really and makes such an impact on how I feel. It’s the same with making the bed in the morning. Silly really but it just makes me smile, also it means I can arrange all of my beloved throw cushions that Hubby can’t understand my having 🙂 Sending heaps of hugs xx

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